Omg, “That’s a great Idea!” Yet, I never execute.
What does Imposter Syndrome feel like? Your palms are sweaty, throat gets dry, and in your head, you're always thinking, "But, what if they don't like it?" It truly sucks.
I learned about the term Imposter Syndrome upon entering the tech scene. ( Even that feels weird to say, see! Imposter Syndrome) I started the blog with so much excitement. Finally, I created a platform I'm genuinely passionate about.
When I began blogging, the sky was the limit. All of the ideas I'd imagined were coming out naturally. And then it began. I started to think to myself, "Should I code even to be considered to talk about technology?" "What makes me valid enough to even represent an industry I know nothing about?"
My thoughts got the best of me, and so the pen stopped writing, and my creativity fell to the floor.
I had fallen into the Imposter Syndrome.
If you don't know, Imposter Syndrome is a pervasive feeling of self-doubt, insecurity, or fraudulence despite often overwhelming evidence to the contrary. It strikes smart, successful individuals. It often rears its head after an especially notable accomplishment, like admission to a prestigious university, public acclaim, winning an award, or earning a promotion. (Scientific American)
In short, it means you're playing yourself by not believing in yourself.
It's the moment you get closer to what you want and then get choked up when everything is all so real. Why is that? Why do we tend to sabotage our selves? How did I begin doubting my blog?
Now, I don't have all the answers, but because I'm sitting here writing this, I can tell you that the fear of the unknown is real. Although we are advised not to be afraid of what we don't know, at times, our mind can take us to the scariest places.
I've had this post sitting here for about two days because I was afraid of spreading my light.
I want to take you on this journey of trying to work towards overcoming this madness syndrome. It's madness because when we begin to believe in ourselves, eliminate the overthinking; we can build and get $hit done.
So, how do we over come this silent terror? Here are my 3 tips on how to kick Imposter Syndrome’s ass:
Soul Search - Yes, you need to be in what I like to call, the “Still” moment. It’s time to dig deep and tackle those negative thoughts. Because, in the end, it’s all a state of mind. My tactic is researching people that I admire. What were there, hurdles? You’ll soon learn that you are not alone and that by overcoming this madness, you can go back to doing what you love to do. So, here’s my challenge for you, start researching someone you admire, find out what problems they faced and how they overcame them to get where they are today.
Talk to someone - If there’s one thing I’ve learned, releasing it is vital. This madness of a syndrome has a way of causing isolation that it becomes just you and your thoughts. So, I highly advise talking to people within your circle, a therapist, and hey, even your mom! Allow someone to hear how you feel that way you could also see your mental process from start to finish. (Because I’m rooting for you! This to shall pass)
DO IT! (The Baby Steps Routine) Ha! Easier said than done, right? Honestly, the only way we can look back and understand how we overcame anything is by leaping forward. I want to share with you my baby steps routine, after reading tons of articles on how to tackle my brain and begin doing what I love, it dawned to me, I needed to create a routine that I loved. By creating my routine, I was able to focus on one thing at a time, just one. It allowed me to align and enjoy the process. Some things take for you to narrow and hone in on one thing for others to flourish. So, what is the one thing you want to face to overcome your “fear”?
Listen, I’m not saying this is an easy route, but it’s indeed well worth it to overcome the negative thoughts and believe that what your doing you are meant to pursue. Let’s fight this syndrome that’s knocking down our beauty to change the world.
Have you suffered from the Imposter Syndrome? How have you overcame this syndrome? Comment below!